Scientists have identified 50
individuals who are able to spot deception with great accuracy after testing
more than 15,000 people. Eyes for Lies is one of the 50 people.
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Eyes has a 97.3%
accuracy rate (to date) after identifying truth and deception in 37/38 people
before the truth was known by watching media clips.
Eyes for Lies is not psychic.
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The first thing anyone who watches this video needs to take into account is that there are no high stakes for Bundy here, so there is no pressure on him to be honest or to tell the truth. With that, if he were lying, the clues to deception would be dramatically reduced, if not completely undetectable. This is key to keep in mind.
However, when I watch the video, I see a man who is down to earth. I see a man who is sharing his thoughts about his crimes. What he says makes logical sense. Some of you questioned if his words were sincere, because you presumed it was an apology. This is not meant to be an apology.
Read moreOther people questioned if Bundy was just repeating what Dobson wanted to hear, but I don't think that is the case either. He seems to believe what he is saying, if you want my opinion.
Bundy could have blamed his parents or his upbringing, but he doesn't. He simply states that he feels pornography played a role in his abnormal behavior, but he admits in the end, his demons even went farther then pornography. I get the sense that just thinking about his crimes still gets Bundy turned on and the positive emotions Bundy expresses when talking about this confuses people into thinking he is lying.
Bundy talks about how he sees himself as a normal person, and identifies that other people didn't point him out to be a pervert. Bundy grins slightly when he talks about this. I think he enjoys that he could "out smart" people so well. He hid his demons well, and he knew it. We knew it, too, in hindsight. I think this snaky grin has made people question Bundy and disbelieve him as well.
I believe Bundy is honest when he says he lived a normal life, but "this one very small, but potent and destructive segment that I kept very secret, very close to myself..." This is how Bundy sees himself. We may not agree, but that doesn't make his statement untrue.
I believe Bundy is honest when he says, "It happened in stages. It happened gradually." I do think that serial killers like Bundy have an addiction, and crave more and more... so this is absolutely logical and plausible, and nothing that makes sense to even doubt.
When Bundy talks about the people he knows in prison who were into violent crime like he was, he says, "Everyone of them was deeply involved in pornography, without question." He says it with conviction and I believe he feels this way. I see no reason to doubt him whatsoever. I bet it is highly likely there are statistics that violent offenders are often drawn to pornography, though I am not sure if there is a correlation. That's another topic.
Bundy talks about how people with this violent pornography addiction are not monsters, and he is right. These people are our brothers, sons, uncles and husbands. They live transparently among us. We often don't know about these people's demons until it is too late. He is being honest here. These are not people who are bums on the street, who are whacked out and strange living in institutions. They often blend in among us with chilling ease.
Once someone is labeled a liar, it is hard for us to ever believe them again, isn't it?
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A reader left a comment on my blog today that was very intriguing. "Draddahip" informed me that the father of the Stanley sisters, two teenagers who were found dead mysteriously in September 2007 just days apart, died in April of this year. Dale was only 52-years old.
That means in less than two years, the entire family died except the mother, Lonny Stanley and her granddaughter. Seems a little strange, doesn't it?
Read moreThe police originally arrested the eldest daughter's boyfriend, James McFarland, in October 2007, but earlier this year dropped all charges against him. I was relieved as the arrest made no logical sense whatsoever.
Lonny Stanley in her 911 calls to the police when her daughter died in 2007 gave me concern. Now I am more curious than ever to know if Dale suffered from any serious long term illnesses (like cancer?) or if something just "popped up" over the last year or so.
I searched online to find Dale's obituary and I found this in the Centerville, Indiana paper, the Pal-Item. It's a pay-per-view obituary:
Born Dec. 2, 1956, in Richmond to Donald and Ruth Stanley, he had worked at Dick Hill and Son Heating and Air Conditioning. Survivors include his wife, Lonny J. Stanley; two brothers and a sister....
The sisters' death in 2007 was a baffling mystery, but nothing compared to what a mystery it has become today. I hope someone in Indiana gives this case a good look over to ensure no one else keels over dead without due cause. I am quite concerned and would like to know more...
Click on the labels below to read all of my thoughts related to this case. Don't forget to scroll down to read the first post. Post are in reverse order.
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When I watch the video of Ted Bundy, I am immediately struck at how his game is "on". Bundy had an arsenal of tools that he used to fool people psychologically, and I am amazed at how many that he employs in the first eleven seconds of this video.
By Bundy's behaviors, it is clear that he knew he could deceive anyone. Bundy understood human behavior and psychology at levels that far exceed most people, if you want my opinion, intuitively, and he knew how to turn the tables on people in seconds. He was wickedly manipulative.
Read moreWhile we all know that Bundy is guilty here, and we are all creeped out by the man in hindsight, I can assure you at the time when people first watched Bundy talk, he gave people serious doubts by his behaviors and actions. Bundy knew how to make people want to believe him. Add in his good looks and articulate speech, and it is no wonder he managed to get away with so many murders.
Bundy figured out that defensiveness is a sure sign of guilt, and what most people use as a gauge to detect truthfulness. He knew to avoid it at all costs. He also knew that if he appeared confident and self-assured, he'd gain more people's trust.
Bundy also used distraction. He uses it here with chilling ease. He talks about how he stole a comic book when he was five years old. And even further, he knew that if he admitted to some wrongs, in a time of accusations, that people would think he was truthful and honest. But more than that, Bundy knew if he talked about something where he was guilty, if he displayed any guilty behaviors, people might attribute them back to the benign behavior, instead of the more serious one. After all, Bundy used in his calculations that it's human nature to reject the people in front of us are capable of horrible things. It's much easier to accept he stole a comic book and is honest, rather than believe he is lying and guilty of killing people. Most people are Pollyannas.
Bundy used multiple techniques in a matter of mere seconds to lure in his victims. It's horrifyingly chilling in this video alone. The ease at which Bundy psychologically baits us is simply mind-blowing. In the first eleven seconds of this video, I count five psychological tools that Bundy used to fool people. That's almost one every two seconds!! It's no wonder Bundy was so successful at his crime.
When Bundy says, "I am not guilty of the allegations that have been filed against me", it is fascinating to watch him. He is very articulate. Notice how he keeps his eyes locked on to the interviewer? He used this as a tool, too. Most people believed (and sadly still believe) that eye contact is a sign of honesty. But when Bundy says this, he shows doubt. He bites his lip. His confidence wanes, and if you are savvy, you would see not only this, but that his initial laughter was as a fake as a plastic cake!
Yet, when you stack up his leaks versus his luring techniques, he's still ahead of the game.
Bundy goes on to say, "I don't know all of what you are speaking about, Lucky, it's too broad and I can't get into it in any detail..." What is fascinating about this is, if he was innocent, what detail would there be to talk about?
Bundy employs psychological trickery, again, when he says, "No man is truly innocent..." and again when he stares intently, without loosing eye contact with the interviewer, when he says, "Nothing like the things you're referring too."
I find it chilling the way that Bundy laughs at how he is as likely to die in front of a firing squad as is the interivewer is of dying in a plane crash. Bundy says with an eerie grin, "Let's hope you don't."
Bundy says he did not lie awake thinking about it (the charges against him, I suspect). He says, "Honest to god, not a moment." I don't believe him for an instant. Do you see the lip curl at the end? It's an indication that what he said was a fib (It's my husband's classic clue to deception!).
Listen to what Bundy says here:
"I've been told the parents of these girls are fairly decent people... I don't know, and I really feel for them because apparently these people suffered some incredible tragedy in their lives. The loss of a loved one is probably the most extreme kind of loss one could suffer in this life, and I say, I feel as much for them as anybody can."
Bundy is trying to get people to accept him as compassionate and caring, but when you look at his words, they are very revealing. In his attempt to gain our trust, he actually rambles like a fool here. Bundy, I suspect, subconsciously minimizes what he is saying and doesn't even realize it. Words can be so telling.
Notice how Bundy uses the word "apparently"? That word discredits the parents suffering, as if maybe the girls weren't really murdered, as if he needs proof, and doesn't believe this is so. Perhaps this was a subconscious form of distancing? It's notably odd.
Then Bundy postulates that the loss of a loved one is "probably" the most "extreme" kind of loss there is. Why is he hedging with "probably" here, yet using the word extreme? Either he believes it or he doesn't. These words identify Bundy is inconsistent. His subconscious, I suspect, is leaking out his real feelings.
He also uses the word "some incredible tragedy". Why the word "some"? It's as if he is saying "some tragedy", but not the worst tragedy, isn't it? Again, his words are minimizing things without him even realizing it. Then if you consider the use of the word "incredible", one can immediately see he is inconsistent and immediately knows that he is B.S.-ing.
I also find it odd how he says he's been told the parents of these girls are "fairly decent"? What normal person would even consider putting into question the decency of the parents? Why does he use "fairly" instead of just decent? I don't think anyone told Bundy, "Hey, you know, these girls parents were fairly decent." It's ridiculous. I suspect this was another subconscious slip of the tongue. He wanted to say decent, but just couldn't do it. I also like how he ends the sentence with, "I don't know".
Bundy was rambling in an attempt to gain support, and this last paragraph, if you ask me, backfired on him, but I am not sure if the average person would have picked up on his hedging. Most people don't see the importance of what I coined "hedge words", but they are very, very telling.
I certainly wouldn't want to have met Ted Bundy. He could manipulate many people into believing they were holding an orange when it was really an apple, if you want my opinion.
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I have mentioned several times on my blog about how emotions can interfere with anyone's ability to see the truth. If you are human, you are prone to this quagmire. I've written about it here and here.
I've always said that if I am emotionally involved in a situation, that is when my "lie-dar", as I call it, jams up and becomes unreliable. Of course, that is nothing specific to me. It applies to every one of us.
Read moreIt is during these times, that I have become very aware to not trust myself. If I am emotional, I will defer judgement on just about anything until a later time when I feel I am in a logical frame of mind.
But what I didn't know is that emotional turmoil can also impact our abilities longer term. Seven weeks ago, my life started on a roller coaster path, which has just recently subsided, and I am surprised at how it has affected me over these weeks, and it is still not yet resolved.
During the height of my emotions, naturally I couldn't focus on things because I was distraught, but now that I have gotten myself back on track, I am still not able to see the truth with the clarity I once had. It's like a flu, I suspect, and until I get myself back into a normal routine and find peace again, I am going to have be cautious.
I just never knew that our emotional well being could affect our judgment for such a duration of time. I understood minutes, hours and even days, but never weeks. This is the first upheaval in my life since I started blogging over four and a half years ago, and I am astounded at how it has impacted my clarity.
Where I used to be able to sit down and identify a truth teller in seconds to minutes, now I can't. Sometimes I can't do it for days. Other times, my clarity returns and I feel it is back, only to find the next day, it left again. It's like a flu, that must run its course, and so I patiently wait.
I promise to only write when I have moments of clarity, but if I don't respond to a request in a timely manner, you'll know why--at least for the time being. My emotions aren't settled back into place and they are still affecting my clarity. After all, I am human: Very human.
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I am immediately struck by the lack of fear in Renee's voice when I first hear the 911 call. Renee's voice is amazingly calm. It's highly notable considering there was a supposed gunman in the house, who if she didn't know, would have every reason to want to eliminate her, too. How could she be so confident he was gone if she was hiding in the closet?
The first time Renee says "My parents were shot" definitively. The second time she adds in "I think my parents were shot". Why did Renee have a change of heart? Why one minute was she definite and the second she wasn't? It's inconsistent. If she was truly afraid and believed someone killed her parents, there would be no doubt whatsoever.
I am really taken back by the fact Renee doesn't start begging and pleading for an ambulance to come and help her parents. She never even asks for an ambulance. It's like she is resigned to the fact they are dead. Most people in a tragic situation like this cling to hope. Renee doesn't. This is highly notable and unusual.
Renee's voice tone is timid. Timid doesn't fit this scenario. Renee should be feeling fear, stress, worry, concern or panic, but I don't hear any of those emotions in the earlier parts of the phone call -- normal emotions we would expect to here in a scenario like this.
I'm amazed at how Renee doesn't have any fear the gunman will hear her and take her out. Why does she feel so safe? It makes her statement that she is hiding in the closet because she is afraid inconsistent. If she had true fear, it would manifest itself in a desire to hide, which would cause her to be afraid to speak. It would also show up in her voice as well, but it doesn't. This is a notable red flag.
I find it really odd how Renee says, "I'm sorry I'm so scared." This is fascinating because it appears Renee is more concerned with her emotions than she is concerned about her parents getting help or their well being! If you were deathly afraid, would you apologize for it? Have you ever apologized to people when you've been very afraid of a serious threat? It's very unusual and abnormal behavior, unless Renee is afraid about being caught. Then it would add up, wouldn't it?
Notice how Renee never asks for an ambulance or shows urgency to try to save her parents? She finally says, "Are they coming?" notably slow. It's another red flag.
When Renee said again, "I'm so scared" I believe that was a true statement. She is worried about how she will be perceived in this whole scenario. She certainly isn't worried about her parents though--the true victims of this scenario. It's all about "Renee".
When the dispatcher asks Renee, "Do you hear anything yet?" with regards to the police and ambulance coming, it's interesting how Renee responds. She says, "I just heard my mom scream really loud." Renee isn't focused on the ambulance coming and getting them help. She is more interested in conveying what she heard earlier. Isn't' that odd? Renee then goes into talking about how she heard her dad, too. Most people, when loved ones are clinging to life or could be gravely injured, hang on to getting help at all costs first and foremost. For Renee, this desire seems totally absent, over and over again.
Listen to how emotional Renee is when she says, "They probably shot my dog, too." There is no stress in her voice whatsoever. Is that how you would feel in a situation like this? Most people would be highly emotional. Renee, again, is the exception.
It's interesting that Renee doesn't talk about the dog barking at all. Wouldn't you have expected the dog to bark if a stranger entered the house (if he wasn't normally locked up)?
When the dispatcher asks who might have done this, Renee's tone of voice is off to me when she says, "I don't know. I really don't know". I would expect her to say it with certainty, but she doesn't.
I find it interesting that Renee inquires when the "cops" will get there, instead of the ambulance. She seems to have no interest in an ambulance at all, like she can't even say the word. It's very strange. Did she know her parents were dead at this point already? You can't help but wonder.
When the dispatcher asks Renee to go to the front door, Renee says, "I'll try". I would expect her fear to be at its highest here. How does she know she won't run into someone lying in wait for her? Oddly, Renee's voice gives no indication of stress here. It's notable.
Notice when Renee says, "I just saw my parents ma'am." There is no shock or horror in her voice. She doesn't seem to flee either. It's haunting! Most people who would see their parents shot would fall apart, run away or scream in pain. Not Renee. Why? Why is she so cold and callous about her parents and concerned only about herself?
Listen how her sadness is gone when she says, "Their shot. Their shot." She obviously had no problem looking at them, and seeing if they were shot. Notice she doesn't check or see if they have pulse or ask how to do CPR. She takes no measure whatsoever to try to help them, does she? The rate of her speech picks up, which suggests excitement. Notice there are no tears, fear, or emotions at this point? They are eerily missing.
When the dispatcher tells Renee to go to the front door, listen to how she says, "Okay" There is a palpable air of excitement in her voice again and a lack of tears, shock, surprise, fear or disbelief.
It's the emotions that Renee doesn't display that concern me the most here. Our emotions are true indicators of how we really feel and Renee doesn't seem to feel any shock, disbelief, worry or concern for her parents well being. With that, you can't help but wonder if she really did want them dead and perhaps took part in ultimately ending their lives.
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A man opened fire at the Holocaust museum a little over a week ago now and killed a security guard. He left a little boy without a father. The killer was 88-year old white supremacist, James W. von Brunn. His son, Eric, spoke out to Good Morning America this week.
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Read moreOne reader has commented that the son, Eric, is a difficult read. He doesn't show any emotions.
I'll post my thoughts in the comments section here in a few days. Don't forget to check back! I've posted my thoughts on Sandra Boss in the comment section of that post, if you have interest.
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48 Hours has profiled the case of Bernadette and Greg Ohlemacher several times this last year and the last time they did (a few weeks back), they uploaded Renee Ohlemacher's 911 call.
It's quite fascinating. What do you hear when you listen to it? Do you see any hot spots to deception? Check back later this week as I give you my analysis!
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Do you believe her? Read more about Sandra Boss here (if you aren't familiar with her). Check back in this comment section for my thoughts later this week.
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Here is footage of Amanda Knox testifying from an Italian website. I have watched more than half the of the testimony and without hearing the questions asked of Knox, it is impossible to identify if she is lying.
Read moreI did find Amanda's demeanor amazingly calm, and I was rather shocked at how lighthearted she appeared. She doesn't seem to experience stress on a level one would expect when facing life in prison. One could argue this both ways: Amanda Knox is not stressed because she knows she is innocent, or one could argue she is psychopathic, and has a grandiose sense of self and believes she can beat this, regardless of what the truth is.
If there are videos available that translate the questions, feel free to post links below. Translations make things tricky to, so I can't make any promises, but I will give all video consideration.
I was surprised to know that Amanda Knox knew Rudy Guede. I didn't know that. To read all of my thoughts on the Amanda Knox case, click on the labels below. Please note posts will appear in reverse order with the first post appearing at the bottom.
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I'll never forget one memory I have of my dog Lucy that absolutely astounded me and I think it will astound you, too. Lucy was a brilliant dog on many levels, and she had one of the keenest intellect I have ever seen in a dog.
We were eating dinner one night about eight or nine years ago, and it must have been something Lucy really loved because out of the blue with total silence around us, she started to bark and went running to the front door. My husband I both looked at each other. It's dark outside, and there were no noises, so we wondered what she was barking at.
Read moreOddly, she barked three or four times, and then came circling around the living room and back into the kitchen--promptly sitting in the beg position, where our other dog Charlie had previous sat. He was now barking at the front door endlessly convinced someone was out there. We figured we just didn't hear whatever it was, and we went back to finishing our meal, which included sharing nibbles with each dog, but now Charlie was out in the entry way barking--missing his share, and Lulu was now getting bites from both my husband and me. At first I didn't pick up on it.
Then as Charlie returned because no one materialized, our little rascal Lucy did it again. She ran off around the living room this time, which was not a direct route to the front door, and started barking again. It was odd behavior.
This time I decided to figure out what this was all about, so I hightailed it in behind her and watched her, unknown to her. What I saw perplexed me. She stopped barking for a second, and stood there looking around. She didn't look out the door like she normally did. Instead, she looked left and then right, and then barked again off into nowhere. If you weren't paying attention, you might have thought she flipped her lid mentally. But when she saw Charlie, who was always slower to come running around the corner, she turned around like "Good! I gotta ya, fool!" and took off back to the kitchen with intent and purpose!
I was like,"What the heck is going on here?" She startled when she ran into me in the doorway to the kitchen, watching her. I could sense this feeling of "Oh no" from her and out of the blue, she turned back to look at the door and barked once again as if to say there really is something out there. Then she looked at me. I wasn't buying it!! It was clear to me there was no one out there, and she and I both knew it. She then promptly followed me into the kitchen and proceeded to beg.
When something is outside, she is usually so roweled up that we can't pull her away from the door for anything. I knew instantly there was a change in her behavior.
At first I was perplexed, but as soon as Charlie came in again to get his fair share and she ran off barking again, I saw a pattern. She realized if she could fake Charlie out with a false bark, he would get distracted for a reasonable amount of time, and she could then go and get his nibbles because he was out of the kitchen. She'd get twice the bites-- because now she could beg from both of us, without any competition. We watched poor Charlie go barreling to the front door, thinking she had sounded a true alarm, and he'd bark for 4 or 5 minutes before finally giving up and realizing he was missing food.
Our little stinker Lucy devised a plan, and must have realized that if she lied and acted like there was someone at the door, her slower companion mutt would fall for it, and she would get all the goods! We watched her repeated it several more times. Her body language was clearly "off" as was the tone of her voice for an alert bark at the door. She was trying to fool all of us and nearly did!
Science has uncovered that animals lie in the wild to gain the upper hand when it comes to food, mating and survival. Here is an article that talks about deception in the animal world. Who knew Dolphins lied, too? Have you ever seen your dog pull a fast one?
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If you watched 48 Hours last night, they re-ran the story of Kari and Matt Baker and added an update at the end. Several people have e-mailed asking my thoughts.
Here are all of my thoughts on the case. Scroll to the bottom to read the first post.
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I have been struggling about how to classify two cases lately. The first case is Daniel Wade Moore. He was tried three times for the murder of Karen Tipton. In the first trial, he was convicted and sentenced to death, but that was overturned. The second trial ended with a hung jury, and last time around he was set free and found innocent. I wrote my first opinion about the case after the first trial was overturned here. Now, today, Moore is a free man.
Read moreThis case is not cut and dry, even though I feel justice was finally served. I did not believe Moore committed this crime long before he was set free, but I am not sure how we should classify this case. I am looking for your help. What do you think?
The second case is regarding the Stanley sisters, Erin and Kelly, from Indiana. Both girls, who were teenagers, ended up dead six days apart. Both girls died at home when their parents were present. Both girls died at night. In a surprise twist, the boyfriend of Erin, who died first, James McFarland, was charged with murdering both girls yet McFarland wasn't even known to be at the house when Kelly died. He was in the bedroom with Erin when he realized she wasn't breathing right and summons for help. The arrest was shocking and didn't make any sense, and I stood firm on that from the beginning, even though I never saw McFarland speak publicly. You can read my thoughts on the case here (scroll down to read my first post). In 2007, when McFarland was arrested, I spoke out about my concern. In a strange twist, in early 2009, he was released and all charges were dropped.
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In my last post, I shared a comment from someone who called themselves a pathological liar. I want to say that I have no exceptional skills here to identify if this person is legit or not by these few words alone. I can only look at the words they write, like everyone else, and see if they fit with people who I have known in the past who are chronic liars. When I do that, the words written do ring true and are believable for someone who is a chronic liar. I personally don't think this comment by "Liar Liar" was a hoax.
Read morePeople who lack a conscience seem to be aware they don't feel guilt or remorse, and know they are missing this emotion. They know they are unique and different. Yet in a twisted reality, I think it is this conscious understanding of their difference that becomes their biggest tool. They seem to realize people who feel remorse, compassion and empathy are excellent targets to use in their quest to get anything their heart desires. If they can find the right people, they can target their wants and needs, and meet them twice as fast than honesty would ever allow.
I believe there are high-functioning super liars that live among us and dupe more people than we'd ever want to know. I have witnessed more than a handful in my lifetime and what makes a super liar is not only a lack of a conscience (empathy or sympathy), but a keen wit to keep facts straight and an exceptional understanding of human behavior. If one possess these three traits, they are quite dangerous, because they will lure and use most of the population without anyone being the wiser for many years, if not a lifetime. It's flat out chilling to witness.
I have witnessed normal everyday, honest, trusting smart people fall into the spell of a chronic liar/manipulator more times than I care to admit, and more often than not, with highly-skilled liars, the victims are absolutely clueless. I have seen communities rally behind these people, because they buy the lies they are fed.
I have even tried to pry open the eyes of honest people in these circumstances only to get rejected by them, because the chronic liar long ago sniffed me out as a threat, and painted me as evil before I ever spoke up. Super liars are even challenging for me. Their game plans are well thought out and executed to prevent people like me from exposing them. They are usually one step ahead of everyone, most of the time.
You must remember, these cruel people know how to role play better than everyone else in society, and they will play the parts they need to in order to accomplish their goal. They will elaborate great schemes to get what they want, because in the end they don't feel remorse. They actually get an emotional high that they outsmarted everyone and that no one is the wiser. This game of cat and mouse is what continues to drive them, and ultimately what creates their superior self-image of arrogance. It gives them great confidence, which is a natural tool to gain the trust of others. They find it fun to outwit, outplay, outlast and outsmart their opponents, and often up the ante over the years to chilling levels, because they get away with it for so long.
Think of Hitler. Think of other evil dictators who came to power. They didn't come to power being evil. The evil only surfaced once they established a trusting base that they later could manipulate.
People who are capable of great evil are the ultimate chameleons of our society. They quickly judge, assess and pick their soldiers, charting them on mission where the true motivator is disguised in fancy fluff, so they can win their personal war and achieve their personal goal with precision, speed, accuracy and ease.
But what is interesting about these people, as "Liar Liar" wrote, is that they do feel pain. They feel their own pain and that pain will often cause them to lash out with evil intent. These people are usually very vindictive, even if they do it anonymously or in private. Their pain can often be their downfall, because it fuels their desire for revenge, and revenge without a conscience is what ultimately exposes their evil deeds to the average trusting person, but often it is too late, and the victim by this point has usually paid the ultimate price.
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A reader left an interesting comment yesterday on my blog post titled Pathological Liars. I thought I would share it with you.
I will be comlpetely honest (for once). I am a liar. A Pathological liar.Some of you out there asume that we are scum and that we are evil, and that is a little too harsh to say. You must understand, when it says we have no morals...WE CANT. I really do wish that I could feel guilt, so that I might stop lying so much. I don't. I never have felt guilty for anything that I have done, I dont think that I ever will.Read more
Apperently, some people have it so bad that they don't feel other emotions as well. Which makes since, saying that me and my friend (yet another liar, there are a lot of us you know) did not cry at our friend's funeral. We lack the emotions for us to properly restrain ourselves from lying to ones we love. Emotionally though, we can feel pain. Don't think that there are some pathological liars out there that feel horrible when they hear the comments that you are writing about them. (I for one think that its funny, and i dont really care) And yes, I belive that I will probably burn in hell for this. But until then, I shall be smiling my evil little grin and crying my fake tears...lying my way easily through life. You think that it is a bad thing to be a liar. I find it wonderful. Things are so easy for me. I manipulate people to think certain things of me, others, and situations. It has been 10 years in this town, no one has ever guessed that I am lying. (most pathological liars have good enough memories to remember what they told to whom) And Honestly, I hope that there are not too many people like me. I am sinful, mean, cold hearted, maybe even souless, and I dont care at all. (I have tried therapy, but i ended up lying to the therapist...so yeah that didnt work out too well). Signed, Liar Liar
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