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Dr. Sanjay Gupta was on the Andersen show yesterday. I absolutely love Dr. Gupta. Why? Because he is passionate about what he does!
Passionate people are usually top in their field. They are
the best at their game because they love it so.
True passion is contagious, too. Have you ever noticed when you speak to someone who is passionate, its almost a guarantee you will away walk enthused--regardless of what you talk about? It's true! But more than that -- passionate people are usually very honest people when comes to their topic of passion.
Most people think that Dr. Gutpa is a TV doctor who doesn't practice much medicine anymore, but nothing could be further from the truth. Andersen said that his staff often calls him to be a guest on the show,
but Dr. Gupta declines because he has to do surgery--brain surgery.
Andersen joked at how important he was to Dr. Gupta and Dr. Gupta even said if
he had to choose between being on TV or doing
surgeries -- surgeries and medical care wins hands down.
It's not that
he doesn't like TV, he just loves his job that much. He went on to say that his mother gave him the best advice. She told him "if you do what you love, you never have to work another day in your life."
How true is that?
Dr. Gupta tweeted that statement today and appended to it--"the best advice ever!"
So true.
When you are looking for an expert in anything -- the one that is most likely to be honest with you is the one who is passionate. The more passionate -- the more likely they are to to get the truth--hands down.
It's one of the things I look for when I want an expert. I look for passion!
And that applied to the specialist/surgeon I met on Tuesday. I wanted a man who was passionate. While his paper resume spoke to the likelihood he was passionate because he was highly regarded by his peers and his patients and won many awards for both, and for his research, I still could have run into a burnt out man. But thankfully, I didn't.
I found exactly what I set out to find -- a passionate person!!
My doctor on Tuesday has been practicing medicine for 36 years, and when we sat down to talk to me about the most boring things in the world--tumors--he was full of energy, enthusiasm and excitement.
Yes, excitement!
I was actually blown away because I certainly don't get excited about tumors, anatomy and how to treat them. No siree, but by the time I left, he had me invigorated! I had a jump in my step. I was confident. I was assured because he was both of those as well.
Isn't passion great?
My doctor enjoyed talking to me for a full two hours because he loves what he does. He loves the body, how it works and how it all interrelates.He told me how he loves surgery, to which I replied he was one strange duck -- but a duck I was glad to know!
How our bodies worked and how he could fix them was the most fascinating thing in the world to him --and if a surgeon who loves to do surgeries more than anything in this world told me I don't need surgery -- I have a 10 fold belief in him he knows what he's doing because his favorite time is in the OR.
He is so good, I am sure he is booked solid with surgeries and sees no reason to add another case that isn't necessary. See why passion and honesty go hand-in-hand?
In our discussions, I almost had to fight to get a word in edgewise because he loved talking about it all so much. He loved educating me--though he did make 100% sure that he went back to answer every one of my questions.
It's people like this who are on top of their game, who are dedicated to being the best they can be, who love what they do -- who will be the most truthful to you, without question. Because they love what they do, people flock to them like bees to honey, and they don't have to seek out what they love to do--it comes to them in droves. So they'll tell you the truth, every time, without question!
I hope this helps you one day.
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Heading to see the doctor, I was in a new area that I wasn't familiar with. Whenever I go anywhere I don't know, I think it is automatic that I go into high-alert mode. I think I do it without consciously thinking of it. I push my shoulders back, put my head up high, and scan my surroundings. I want to see where people are, and who is focused intently, and on what.
I've never done it consciously and probably wouldn't have been aware of it until I had my husband beside me when we went to visit the doctor in downtown Chicago this week. We were walking down the street because I wanted to show him something I had seen before, and as we started walking to our destination--someone caught my eye. It was a person who was opportunistic, without question--not that he was going to act, but he would if the situation was right. He caught my attention as he normally would, but when I glanced at my husband to see if he was paying attention, I was shocked at what I saw.
My ever-so-sweet and caring husband was truly worried about me and the doctor visit. He was caring my bulky radiology films, and when I looked at him, his shoulders were slumped over. He was leaning forward in his steps, and he was staring at the ground as he continued forward. He was also truly oblivious to anyone or anything around him. I suspect that unpleasant thoughts of surgery were spinning through his head.
As the guy who concerned me passed us and started walking in front of us, I tapped my husband on his shoulder and said, "Hang back a bit" so the guy ahead of us got distance.
"Didn't you pick up on him?" I said pointing to the guy gaining distance ahead of us.
My husband who is very intelligent and a beautiful man looked at me oblivious.
I said, "He was looking at us. Didn't you see it? You are screaming target! Target! Look at your shoulders and how they slump over. You weren't aware of anything around you, were you?"
He admitted he wasn't. He was lost deep in thought, though he never told me so. It was then that I encouraged him for both of our safety to stiffen up, and to become aware of his surroundings. He tried, but didn't pass the sniff test for me, but I let it go.
I tried to tell him that he needed to be more aware of what he was communicating with his body--that he gave the perfect vibe to be a candidate for a mugging. He told me he never worried about it--after all, he is a guy.
But he should!! My dad was mugged several times and my husband and dad are very much alike -- and suddenly I could understand why my dad was a target!
As we walked, I said to him don't you pick up on this stuff at all?
He replied that he does to some degree, but not like me. As we continued to walk, I gave him an earful.
"That guy there? Artistic, out of the box thinker, but he can be unpredictable. "This one...." Oh, wait, that's the same opportunistic guy we saw earlier. As I said that, I had my camera in my hand as I taking a picture, and the man looked right at my camera, and then straight down to my purse as he approached us head-on."
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I want to thank everyone for your wonderful encouragement and support during my medical dilemma.
I'm exhausted after a long day, but I wanted to give a quick update. I met with the University of Chicago specialist/surgeon today, and he was everything I had hoped for! He actually sat and chatted with me and my husband for two full hours in a tiny conference room much like what is picture above.
When he sat down, he said, "Do you want surgery?"
I said, "No, not if I don't need it."
He said, "Are you afraid you have cancer?"
I said, "No, not now [because of all my reading], but I'm worried about the potential due to my family history."
He said if you had cancer by the size of your tumors, you'd be dead!". We laughed. That seemed logical.
He continued, "I see no reason why you would need surgery at this point unless your symptoms are bothering you. I am here to explain all of your options, so you understand them. It is not my place to decide what is right for you. That is your decision."
And in those two hours he answered every question and concern I had, and taught me all he could. He offered me options and told me that delaying any surgery was probably my best bet because if we intervened now, with no medically necessary reason, I stood a good chance at having the tumors regrow and re-offend me again, so he saw no point in rushing things at this point. He thinks its better I wait until I feel I have no other option because the time delay could prevent me from other surgeries. And he saw no reason to radical alter my body at all, unless it was the option I wanted!
He explained that I have a 75% probability that I will get uncomfortable due to the tumors and will want intervention, but I also have a 25% chance things will stay as they are and never bother me further. Plus as time goes by, different options may develop because in the last 5 years advanced have been sizable.
My blood pressure was 159/84 when I got there, and I know it was a lot higher most of the week. I was so stressed out and now I feel like the stress of world fell off of me. My normal blood pressure is 100/70 and it should be returning, if it hasn't already! I can think clearly again!!!
I may not be out of the woods yet, but I am certainly not where the last doctor wanted me to believe I was-- at cancer's door knocking. She was flat reckless and irresponsible.
I share this with all of you in hopes that it will give you the courage, the strength and the fortitude to question people you meet in life. Just because someone is an expert, it doesn't mean they know best. A good expert will always educate you first and then guide you and let you make the ultimate decision about what is right for you! That's always the sign of a top-notch expert in their field.
I'm happy, healthy and feel so blessed to have met this doctor today!
Thanks again for all of your support!!! And thanks to Mr. Eyes, he is simply the best.
P.S. He also told me that my radiological tests were so poorly done, they were of no use to him! They were junk!!! That was a surprise!! Not.
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I recently went to the doctor for a checkup and explained some of my concerns to my doctor. I have been having some issues over the past few years, and do keep a regular check on my health because my grandmother likely had something similar. She died at the age of 51. We know she had cancer, but we just don't know which one. We just know the region of origin.
My doctor came highly recommended to me by a handful of medical doctors I have seen over the years. She is intelligent, smart, witty and seems very knowledgeable. She is also given decent reviews by patients, so I felt like I was in good hands.
I've been unfortunately cursed with some benign tumors and they continue to grow slowly (which is not abnormal for the tumor type) so I keep getting them looked at to make sure they don't turn into cancer. The risk is very, very remote-- but I also need to watch to make sure nothing else develops, either.
During my last visit, my doctor suddenly said we should remove them and a whole lot more! She got me really scared by her words. Her exact words were that they were growing too fast, and she was "concerned....very concerned." Naturally, we had talked about my grandmother and her cancer again -- so it was clear she was telling me she was concerned about cancer. And her recommended? Radical surgery immediately.
I walked out of the office stunned. I didn't see that coming at all. It even took me a few minutes to understand what she was saying because she didn't come right out and say it until I laid it on the table--"Is this what you are saying?" She confirmed.
I was blind-sided and scared and freaked out. It didn't help that after I left her office, I went out into the middle of a snowstorm, where the roads were slick and my nervous hands struggled to keep my car on the road.
And the power died as soon as I got home for 4 hours so I couldn't do any research to understand more about what was going on.
At first, in my emotional fear, I believed her. Emotions are our biggest cloud to seeing the truth there is--for all human beings--and I am no exception.
As I calmed down over the evening, and I started thinking, by morning I could verbalize the holes in her approach. She was telling me she was very concerned because my tumors had grown, and fast growing tumors could be cancer, but if I wanted a second opinion (which I told her I did), she told me to see this conservative doctor who would probably make a different recommendation all together because of his beliefs.
I realized if she truly believed I was on the cancer track as she so scared me, would she believe another doctor would take a different approach? A doctor who believed in Western medicine like herself? That didn't make sense to me because I wasn't arguing with her, disagreeing or asking for any form of alternative treatments. It would be one thing if I wanted to see an Eastern medicine specialist, but I wasn't.
She also never said to me, "I'm very concerned this could be cancer." She never outright said it. She stopped short. She connected things by reference, but never actually said it. This bothered me. She never gave me statistical probabilities, either. That bothered me.
I have read up on vast amounts of literature the past few weeks and found she left out a lot of information/options/procedures/risk factors, and if I simply trusted what she told me, I would have been woefully mislead. Her end diagnosis may be where I end up, but she didn't take the prudent steps to ensure it was the right decision.
I've found out by ordering my medical records from her office that my tumors have not grown fast at all. They've actually slowed in their growth rate!! The day I left her office in a panic, I asked her how many tumors I had now, because she said I had more than the last time. She told me, "More than 5 -- they stopped counting!" My records show ONLY 3, with a possible forth. And one could be 2, but there was no mention of five definitely, or that they stopped counting. This was another blatant lie!
I also discovered in her medical record of my visit that there was no mention of cancer whatsoever, or any concerns. What she did was write down her notes as if I came in complaining and wanted a "solution"--and so she offered me options. I couldn't believe it. Why do I still get surprised? What she did was write down my concerns, but she took great liberty in grossly misrepresented them --making them much worse than what I said they were, which gives her the justification for recommending the surgery. So what we discussed and what she actually wrote down were two entirely different conversations.
Also, during my exam, as we chatted, she asked me what I was up to lately and I told her about my training for law enforcement. Guess what she wrote on her report? That I worked for the FBI. I never said that and you all know I do not work as a employee of the FBI. Another inaccurate piece of information. Her medical records hit me as "cover-your-ass" paperwork because it had nothing about our real visit in it!
In her report, she wrote about how she offered me all these different
treatment options--for which she offered only 2 -- and lied about one of the two. She told me of two surgeries that were available, and only guided
me towards one saying the other could not be done completely (where tumors would remain)--which is
an outright lie!! It could be done completely and curatively but differently than she told me. It would take a specialist surgeon to do it, however, and it wouldn't be her! I don't believe she had the skill. She also wrote that she advised me of all the risks -- which she advised me of none!
I can see if I took her to court (which I have no intention), I'd like look the nut job by her records.
It was a very stressful and disappointing experience to say the least.
I went ahead and scheduled a consultation with a top-notch surgeon and expert in the area of my concern tomorrow at the University of Chicago.
I'm really nervous and scared because I don't know where it is all going to go, but I need good and trustworthy answers. This doctor has been given award after award and is highly regarded nationally, but this time, I'm well read, educated and ready to ask him 1000 questions, if need be. No one is going to mislead me when it comes to my health! I know all the potentials where this could go and I'm ready to get trustworthy answers. I want to know which option is best for me, and WHY.
If I don't post for a few days, please understand why. I'm going through a lot right now.
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